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Michele
I am 19 years old. I go to college, I live in my house with my parents during breaks. My older brother and sister both have moved out by now. My family is 100% Italian and catholic. We go to church every Sunday. We eat at Italian restaurants. The problem? I hate it. I hate going out to dinner with them. To me, those dinner conversations about the news and family and whatever else is extremely boring to me. I hate church. I am not catholic I am agnostic. I choose to go to church with them to avoid all hell breaking loose if I refuse to go. I would rather tune out with my iPod during long car rides than talk to them. It all just bores me. I hardly pay attention. This doesn't only apply to them it applies to everyone. I guess I don't act my age. I would rather stay home alone and watch Netflix than go next door for a surprise party for my mom's birthday that she doesn't even want. I really don't care. I look forward to nights that I get to eat dinner alone because my parents are going out somewhere. I look forward to solitude. The thing is, my family has a one way mind set. They think that if you step away from the family party for 10 minutes that you are anti-social. They think that if you want to stay in your pajamas all day that you are lazy. They say that if you don't help with every single chore and always put others before you that you are selfish (and I have been called selfish many times by them). They think that if you don't put all of your effort into finding a Christmas gift for mom and dad that you are irresponsible. My question is why? Not only am I different than my family, but I am different than society as a whole. Why? What happens to people that cause them to diverge from the normal way of thinking. I'm starting to not like Christmas because it's so over dramatized and I find the idea of getting presents for every single member of your family a ridiculous "obligation". I want to know if it makes me a bad person for not caring about my family and for not having an interest in them. I like my friends of course because I can relate to them. But I feel like I can't relate to my family at all. Every time I hear that we're going to so an so's house for Christmas eve or we're going out to here on this date fills me with dread. I just want to be able to do the things that I like so I don't have to resort to other unhealthy things. I've tried to go along with their lifestyle but it just isn't me. So who ever thinks they're daring enough to try to solve this jigsaw puzzle please, you would be doing a desperate girl a huge favor.
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Differenter. More non-aligned. less conventional, more cognitive than communal, more heuristic, less homogenizing.
There are many other possible adjective terms.
What it boils down to is that each person is unique, and part of everything. Some are just unique-er. The general advice about growing up has some truth because the emerging adult struggles against current restraints, and the restraints of adulthood haven't been felt yet, or adjusted to.
There is so much variation around the center of any curve that plots characteristics of any large sample, that generalization has limited value.
If you wish to maximize the value of this current situation, and the future situations you create in the interactions between yourself, and everything else, you can do so. The way to do that is to become focused on realities that are common to all life situations, and then lean to apply them to specific instances. That's a mouthful. Let me give you an example from another field.
Many of the toys we take for granted nowadays like instant communication around the world, radar, and visual images from satellites, discoveries from Hubble, Cassini, Curiosity, Jade Rabbit, would be impossible without the focused attention on gravitational attraction that Isaac Newton made possible with his six symbol formula. The news is that there is a six word formula that focuses attention on the common elements of all life situations. Anyone who is familiar with that formula, and uses it, can quickly penetrate the daily cacophony and see the patterns that are operating, and, more significantly, see paths to creating value in any particular situation.
What you can do, as a member of a traditional, Catholic, Italian family is to familiarize yourself with the formula, its background, and application methods, in secret. Since the formula arises out of Buddhism, and that is confusing to almost everyone, because they don't know that it just means 'the effort to awaken', you would need to do this familiarization in stealth mode.
Once you apply it, you will be more relaxed among your family, and in other situations. It will aid you in your college studies because it reduces brain friction, and your outside relationships because you can appreciate more aspects of reality, and you will win more often. You can become different, calm, responsible, appreciative all without tipping anyone off. You may choose to connect with other people who also use this method, and can.
Once you are displaying these abilities, some of the family may ask you how you did it. be careful in how you reveal the method, because the greatest fear most people have is to be different, and take responsibility for their own lives.
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Differenter. More non-aligned. less conventional, more cognitive than communal, more heuristic, less homogenizing.
There are many other possible adjective terms.
What it boils down to is that each person is unique, and part of everything. Some are just unique-er. The general advice about growing up has some truth because the emerging adult struggles against current restraints, and the restraints of adulthood haven't been felt yet, or adjusted to.
There is so much variation around the center of any curve that plots characteristics of any large sample, that generalization has limited value.
If you wish to maximize the value of this current situation, and the future situations you create in the interactions between yourself, and everything else, you can do so. The way to do that is to become focused on realities that are common to all life situations, and then lean to apply them to specific instances. That's a mouthful. Let me give you an example from another field.
Many of the toys we take for granted nowadays like instant communication around the world, radar, and visual images from satellites, discoveries from Hubble, Cassini, Curiosity, Jade Rabbit, would be impossible without the focused attention on gravitational attraction that Isaac Newton made possible with his six symbol formula. The news is that there is a six word formula that focuses attention on the common elements of all life situations. Anyone who is familiar with that formula, and uses it, can quickly penetrate the daily cacophony and see the patterns that are operating, and, more significantly, see paths to creating value in any particular situation.
What you can do, as a member of a traditional, Catholic, Italian family is to familiarize yourself with the formula, its background, and application methods, in secret. Since the formula arises out of Buddhism, and that is confusing to almost everyone, because they don't know that it just means 'the effort to awaken', you would need to do this familiarization in stealth mode.
Once you apply it, you will be more relaxed among your family, and in other situations. It will aid you in your college studies because it reduces brain friction, and your outside relationships because you can appreciate more aspects of reality, and you will win more often. You can become different, calm, responsible, appreciative all without tipping anyone off. You may choose to connect with other people who also use this method, and can.
Once you are displaying these abilities, some of the family may ask you how you did it. be careful in how you reveal the method, because the greatest fear most people have is to be different, and take responsibility for their own lives.
What gifts to buy for friends in Korea?
Q. I need to buy some gifts for my mom's best friend's sons. She and my mom haven't seen each other for 10 years until my mom went to Korea last month. They've sent me and my sister some small gifts and my mom is insisting that I should send something back. They are in their late 20's and I don't really know them. Help!
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Maybe something you can't get in korea but you can get her
Maybe something you can't get in korea but you can get her
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