Kayla Bous
I got pregnant with my best friend... Long story short we had sex and now I'm pregnant and he's really upset he keeps going from being really upset and crying to being really angry and throwing things e keeps going back and forth between moods. Anyways he keeps saying that we r not ready for a baby and to get an abortion. And he keeps asking me what will happen when the baby is born since we don't love eachother like relationship wise we only love eachother as friends which Is true. We only had sex to et our first times out of the way. Ik I'm not ready for a baby but I don't want an abortion and idk if I could give my baby up for adoption once I have held him/her I think it would break my Heart to much. What should I do. Should I listen to him and get an abortion
Answer
No! He's scared and it's understandable that you would both be scared, having a baby is a big change. But, being scared doesn't justify the taking of a human life. This is a little human growing inside of you. all of his or her DNA is in place and there will never be another person in the world just like him or her. God has trusted you with this little life. Don't discard this blessing.
If you're truly not ready to be parents, adoption is an option and a wonderful gift you can give a couple that desperately wants a baby but cannot have one on their own. This website has an example of such a couple: http://giveyourbabylife.com/adoption.html
I can sympathize with what you are experiencing; when I was 17 I was shocked to find out that I was pregnant. I had an abortion. I was young and scared, and my mom and boyfriend said I should. I was so frightened and numb I honestly didn't even want to think about it, just to get it over with. And that decision is something I have regretted for many years.
Here's what I learned from the experience.
Abortion hurts both babies and women. As part of the healing process, I went to group therapy for other women and heard their stories, both similar and different to mine, of regret and loss, depression and sadness. Abortion ends a human life and it should never be a decision that you rush into. Once it is done, the baby is dead and gone, and no amount of grieving or sadness can undo your "choice". Some things to expect from post abortion grief are intense anniversary reactions around when the due date would have been, post traumatic stress over the actual procedure, concerns about fertility and guilt if you actually have a child about what made the one that was aborted any less valuable. And depression.
Here on this one link you can read thousands of women's personal stories of post abortion regret: http://www.silentnomoreawareness.org/testimonies/index.aspx
God forms babies. Each one is unique and formed by Him. You are strong enough to carry this child, and you can do it. You and your baby are both precious to God.
Each baby, once conceived, already has it's own set of completely unique DNA. No human in the history of the world has ever been or ever will be exactly like this child. He or she is precious and unique.
If you've missed a period, your baby already has a heartbeat, fingers and toes. He or she has probably already had hiccups. You can read more about fetal development on these links, if you are one week from the missed period you are considered 5 weeks pregnant, as they measure from the first date of the last period. So if you are three weeks late, you are considered 8 weeks pregnant.
http://www.ehd.org/prenatal-images-index.php
http://truthbooth.org/video.asp 4D ultrasound images
Babies feel pain during the procedure, when they are killed. it's graphic and awful to think about, but important to consider if you are considering abortion. Abby Johnson was a Planned Parenthood employee of the year. She quit her job after witnessing a baby struggle against suction device during an ultrasound guided abortion. She is now a speaker for pro-life causes and works to help other women get out of the abortion industry, you can read her story here: http://www.abbyjohnson.org/about/
Your baby is precious and innocent. It would be wrong to end a human life, your own baby's, because it seems scary or difficult to have a child at this point. Being frightened, concerned what others may think or worried about finances, it pales in perspective to the fact that this is a human life. If asked, your baby would want to live. It may seem hard but having the baby is the right decision. Adoption is an option if you just do not feel ready to be a parent.
Please, do the responsible thing and think this over carefully, you do not want to regret it after like I did, I learned from experience that it is a mistake to rush and take care of the "problem". It's not a clump of cells. It's a real human life. I urge you to consider it carefully.
Many adoption agencies can help you find a couple that will pay for your medical expenses and help you. You can also email info@giveyourbabylife.com for free advice
www.giveyourbabylife.com
Weight Loss?
crystald
I have a dinner coming up and I want to loose as much weight as I can so my pooch doesnt show,,, Its the last week of Sept so i dont have much time. I need quick results....
Thanks,
( i really only have about 20 pounds to loose total after the baby) ha ha he's 2yrs old now, can I still use that??? ha ha
Answer
Healthy weight loss tips
* Take one pound at a time
Donât get overwhelmed by how much weight you need to lose. Try to remember that "losing 15 pounds in two weeks" is nothing to celebrate. It is important to realize that the more quickly weight is lost, the more likely the loss is coming from water and muscle, not fat.
Since muscle tissue is critical in keeping our metabolism elevated, losing it actually leads to a decrease in the amount of calories we can each day without gaining weight.
Fat loss is best achieved when weight is lost slowly. Strive for a weight loss of no more than 3-4 pounds per week. One pound of weight is equivalent to 3500 calories.
* Set Reachable Goals
For instance, if you know you need to get more exercise, begin with a manageable goal of, say, walking 10 minutes a day that you know you can achieve. Then build your self-esteem by achieving the small goals you set yourself.
The same logic applies for losing weight.
* Stay off the scales
Donât get discouraged when your progress seems to be slow according to your bathroom scales. They do not provide a true measure of what is going on with the body.
If exercise levels are adequate (5-7 days a week), you may be putting on muscle but losing fat, thus losing inches even if you are not losing pounds. It's always a good idea to do several body measurements to have a second objective way to monitor progress.
* Stay focused on being healthy, not thin
# Many people become more successful at long term weight loss when their motive changes from wanting to be thinner to wanting to be healthier. Change your mindset to think about selecting foods that will help your body's health rather than worrying about foods that will affect your body's weight. The Food Pyramid offers a basic outline of the types and amounts of food you should eat each day to give your body the nutrients it needs for optimal health.
* Fat Free?
We've known for some time that limiting high fat foods in the diet can be helpful with weight loss. That's because fats pack in 9 calories per gram compared to only 4 calories per gram from proteins or carbohydrates. To many, the message to limit fats implied an endorsement to eat unlimited amounts of fat-free products. Just to clarify, fat-free foods have calories too. In some cases fat-free foods have as many calories as their fat laden counterparts. If you eat more calories than your body uses, you will gain weight. Eating less fat will help you to lose weight. Eating less fat and replacing it with excessive amounts of fat-free products will not.
* Drink plenty of water
Drink eight glasses a day. Water is a natural appetite-suppressant. Nettle tea is a great weight-loss tea as it supports metabolism and has diuretic properties.
* Reward yourself
# Each time you reach a goal, such as losing 5 pounds, reward yourself with a gift or a massage.
* Seek help if you need it
# A big key in long term weight control comes from receiving encouragement and support from others. Find a friend to lose weight with or you can check to see if groups such as Weight Watchers, or eDiets offer programs and resources in your area by clicking the links. You may also wish to check with your local hospital to see if their registered dietician conducts group weight loss programs.
* Watch your portions
With the advent of "supersize" meals and increasingly huge portions at restaurants, our concept of normal serving sizes is a distant memory. Be mindful of the amounts of food you consume at a sitting. When necessary, divide your food in half and ask for a take home bag. It is all too easy to be a "plate cleaner" even when served enormous portions. Learn to pay attention to your hunger level and stop eating when you feel comfortably full, not stuffed.
* Eat your food slowly
Did you ever notice that thin people take an awfully long time to eat their food? Eating slowly is one method that can help take off pounds. That's because from the time you begin eating it takes the brain 20 minutes to start signaling feelings of fullness. Fast eaters often eat beyond their true level of fullness before the 20 minute signal has had a chance to set in. The amount of calories consumed before you begin to feel full can vary significantly depending on how quickly you eat. So slow down, take smaller bites and enjoy your food.
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