Kira J
I'm not with his dad but it is the same guy. I had my son very young and we have kept in contact. About 5 months ago we slept together and... well, I'm now expecting the pitter patter of tiny feet once more. How should I tell our son?
Answer
Just do it!
Your 5 year old has some understanding of babies and their mere existence in the world and most likely will be excited, but with time there will be questions.
My advice is: just answer his questions, and nothing more. Do not give more information than he asks for. eg. he may ask 'how did the baby get in there?" answer that but not the drama about how you and the dad feel about each other, unless he asks. Then be honest but don't elaborate too much. He will pretty much only listen to what he can handle anyway.
Honesty is the best policy in this situation, and even if it makes YOU a bit uncomfortable, it is worth it. It is better to prepare yourself with the simpler questions at this age, so that you are comfortable with the trickier stuff later on. Like, condoms and STI's.
Good luck with your pregnancy, your present little angel will be a great help after baby is born, he can do lots at his age; like sing, rock and bring nappies etc.
Encourage him to be helpful, but try not to blame the baby when you are not able to do things for him. "mummy doesn't feel well right now" not "the baby makes me feel sick at the moment".
When baby is born have a present for the 'big' brother from the baby, and help him choose a gift for baby too!
Get lots of books about babies and siblings to help prepare him.
I had my little ones paint my toe nails while pregnant and unwell it helped them feel grown up and important, while I put my feet up.
Your main concern now is to take care of you, so do it. You will be a better mother for it.
Good luck!!
Just do it!
Your 5 year old has some understanding of babies and their mere existence in the world and most likely will be excited, but with time there will be questions.
My advice is: just answer his questions, and nothing more. Do not give more information than he asks for. eg. he may ask 'how did the baby get in there?" answer that but not the drama about how you and the dad feel about each other, unless he asks. Then be honest but don't elaborate too much. He will pretty much only listen to what he can handle anyway.
Honesty is the best policy in this situation, and even if it makes YOU a bit uncomfortable, it is worth it. It is better to prepare yourself with the simpler questions at this age, so that you are comfortable with the trickier stuff later on. Like, condoms and STI's.
Good luck with your pregnancy, your present little angel will be a great help after baby is born, he can do lots at his age; like sing, rock and bring nappies etc.
Encourage him to be helpful, but try not to blame the baby when you are not able to do things for him. "mummy doesn't feel well right now" not "the baby makes me feel sick at the moment".
When baby is born have a present for the 'big' brother from the baby, and help him choose a gift for baby too!
Get lots of books about babies and siblings to help prepare him.
I had my little ones paint my toe nails while pregnant and unwell it helped them feel grown up and important, while I put my feet up.
Your main concern now is to take care of you, so do it. You will be a better mother for it.
Good luck!!
What's a good small gift ($5-6) for a a 6-9 year old?
northern_m
There are going to be 5 older kids at my son's 1st birthday party, ages 6-9 years. For babies, I am doing a little favor bag with a small board book (less than $6 each). I want to do a small favor bag for the older kids, same price range.
Any suggestions?
Answer
I agree witht he first answer a book for them as well. You could get a nice Suess or my first reader for the same price, or Borders has bargain books as you walk in. This way you can level the books from easy readers to chapter books for the older 9yr olds. In fact they have brought back choose your own adventuere books and 8-9 yr old LOVE them (I am a teacher so I see these in their hands all the time). These books have several scenarios so it is like reading a video game for them.
I agree witht he first answer a book for them as well. You could get a nice Suess or my first reader for the same price, or Borders has bargain books as you walk in. This way you can level the books from easy readers to chapter books for the older 9yr olds. In fact they have brought back choose your own adventuere books and 8-9 yr old LOVE them (I am a teacher so I see these in their hands all the time). These books have several scenarios so it is like reading a video game for them.
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