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I'll never forget when five people who I was once friends with all chipped in to but me a cheap and horrible-smelling perfume which I found out cost $20. I had spent $50-$100 on each of them for their Birthday gifts that year. Really showed me how much they cared for me.
Does anyone else wish to share their experiences?
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My mother-in-law gave me a dish towel one year. Was that some kind of hint, or did she think I just would really love. . . a dish towel?
But my favorite crappy gift story comes from *my* mom: *her* mother-in-law, for their first Christmas as a wedded couple, gave my mother and father *two* twin bed sheet sets. Love that one.
My mother-in-law gave me a dish towel one year. Was that some kind of hint, or did she think I just would really love. . . a dish towel?
But my favorite crappy gift story comes from *my* mom: *her* mother-in-law, for their first Christmas as a wedded couple, gave my mother and father *two* twin bed sheet sets. Love that one.
How can I help my Mom cope with grief?
Nessa Chub
Recently, our uncle rolled his truck and passed away, but this was really harsh with us because he was our mom's twin brother.
I know that I might not ever understand what she's feeling right now, but I really want to know how I can help her in this specific situation since it hits so close for her.
How will I be able to help my mom through this? I feel so terrible for her, but I don't know what to say or do.
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this is a very good question. Tell her that itls ok to express her feeling...if she wants to cry, she should doit. Don't even tell her to be strong and not to cry, all the contrary..she needs to get out from inside the pain. Encourage her by letting her know that with you or with whoever she feels comfortable it's fine to cry, or scream, or complain. She should know that whatever she is feeling is normal in this situation. Some people feel angry at life, guilt, feel like crying or breaking things, or just having some space..all is normal. There is no such thing as right or wrong when it comes to dealing with grief. Everyone grief differently. You should talk to her and ask her how she is doing and feeling and if she cries it's ok..tell her to do it and keep listening to whatever she feels like saying. Then reassure her that she is not alone, that you are with her supporting her in her pain. Don't tell her you know what she is going through..you don't. But tell her to find comfort in the good memories. Losing a loved one is like losing a piece of our own heart, the pain don't stop with time, but we can find comfort in good memories and by taking care of ourself. Tell her that as she expresses her sorrow and pain, (because whatever we do we should never burry a hurt alive) she should also remember to take care of herself and she does that by doing the best she can one day at the time. She should allow others to comfort her and care for her, she shouldn't feel bad for that and allow herself to be nurtured and cared for...she doesn't have to go through this alone. Remind her of that and also ask her if therels anything she feels guilt about. It's normal people remember bad things and feel guilt about things whena loved one dies. Encourage her to express her feelings and don't try to change them. It's only by sharing what she feels and getting out by talking or writing to someone that she might start to feel relieve. And most important, let her know that her brother knew how much she loved him, no matter what he knew that as she knows how much he loved her. He was a precious gift of love to your mom and she should remember that always. She should also know that the little or much she did for him while he was alive was enough. People always feel they could have done more for the loved one that passed away, let her know she did good. Repeat these words to her as many time as necessary. Let her be angry, cry or tell you the same stories over and over again until with time she will be finding acceptance and peace. It's necessary to talk and talk sometimes when going through grief but the grieving migt feel bad about repeating her feelings to someone or might believe she needs to stay strong. Open yourself to be there for her and let her know you are willing to walk by her side step by step in her grief as long as it takes, even a lifetime because losing a brother is something hurt for life. Hope this helps. And I'm sorry for your loss.
this is a very good question. Tell her that itls ok to express her feeling...if she wants to cry, she should doit. Don't even tell her to be strong and not to cry, all the contrary..she needs to get out from inside the pain. Encourage her by letting her know that with you or with whoever she feels comfortable it's fine to cry, or scream, or complain. She should know that whatever she is feeling is normal in this situation. Some people feel angry at life, guilt, feel like crying or breaking things, or just having some space..all is normal. There is no such thing as right or wrong when it comes to dealing with grief. Everyone grief differently. You should talk to her and ask her how she is doing and feeling and if she cries it's ok..tell her to do it and keep listening to whatever she feels like saying. Then reassure her that she is not alone, that you are with her supporting her in her pain. Don't tell her you know what she is going through..you don't. But tell her to find comfort in the good memories. Losing a loved one is like losing a piece of our own heart, the pain don't stop with time, but we can find comfort in good memories and by taking care of ourself. Tell her that as she expresses her sorrow and pain, (because whatever we do we should never burry a hurt alive) she should also remember to take care of herself and she does that by doing the best she can one day at the time. She should allow others to comfort her and care for her, she shouldn't feel bad for that and allow herself to be nurtured and cared for...she doesn't have to go through this alone. Remind her of that and also ask her if therels anything she feels guilt about. It's normal people remember bad things and feel guilt about things whena loved one dies. Encourage her to express her feelings and don't try to change them. It's only by sharing what she feels and getting out by talking or writing to someone that she might start to feel relieve. And most important, let her know that her brother knew how much she loved him, no matter what he knew that as she knows how much he loved her. He was a precious gift of love to your mom and she should remember that always. She should also know that the little or much she did for him while he was alive was enough. People always feel they could have done more for the loved one that passed away, let her know she did good. Repeat these words to her as many time as necessary. Let her be angry, cry or tell you the same stories over and over again until with time she will be finding acceptance and peace. It's necessary to talk and talk sometimes when going through grief but the grieving migt feel bad about repeating her feelings to someone or might believe she needs to stay strong. Open yourself to be there for her and let her know you are willing to walk by her side step by step in her grief as long as it takes, even a lifetime because losing a brother is something hurt for life. Hope this helps. And I'm sorry for your loss.
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