How do I decline a baby shower invitation?

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sara

My bosses wife is having a baby shower scheduled on Valentines Day. I just got the invitation and I have plans with my Valentine for that day. What is the proper way to decline the invitation? Do I still get her a gift? How should I give her the gift- have it shipped to her house or drop it off with the hostess of the shower? I regret not being able to go because of the work relationship, but besides that I don't really care. Thank you in advance for your response.

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Just rsvp as indicated on the invitation that you can't make it. It's pretty silly to schedule a baby shower on Valentine's Day, anyway. You should send a nice card to the mother-to-be or, if you want to, send a gift, but you are in no way required to. If you want to get a gift (and there are a lot of small things that are useful for new parents) I would send it to or drop it off with the hostess so the mother can get it the day of her shower.

Do I have to buy a shower gift for both mothers-to-be when invited to a joint baby shower?

Sophiesmam

My nephew's wife is expecting as is a cousin of hers on her side of the family, so that side of her family is throwing a joint baby shower. I do not know the other girl at all and was only planning to take a gift for my nephew's wife. Is that ok?

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That is fine. I had a joint shower with a cousin on my husband's side of the family. Those from just my side gave me a gift but not her as they did not know her and vice versa.

I didn't expect strangers that knew her to give me a gift nor did she expect my guests that she did not know to give her a gift.

Best wishes!

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