Busy Mommy
A male friend of mine and his wife just announced they are expecting their first child in October. I bought my friend a book that is a father-to-be's guide to pregnancy as a "congrats" gift. Do you think his wife will feel left out if I do not give her a gift? Do you think I should also get her something? If so...what? I know she is very knowledgeable on pregnancy as she is works as a nurse at my OB's office, so a guide to pregnancy for her would be useless, I think...she knows it all!
Jodi-You say "his friend" like there is more to it than friendship and I can assure you that there is not. I have been friends with him since we were in grade school. He is now very close friends with my husband also. I see him much more then I see his wife, she very seldom comes along when he visits us so I am not that close to her.
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I say you do not have to buy your friend's wife a gift...after all...HE is your friend, if you consider her a friend it seems it's more of a "friend by association" type of thing. If you do decide to buy her a gift I think I would stick to some sort of book. How about a Baby Name Book?
Also...I do not see anything wrong with giving your friend a gift, even if he is a guy. He has been your friend since you were kids I am sure his wife is aware of that and if he visits you and your husband without her I am also sure she trusts you both in this friendship. Where is there a rule that says adults of the opposite sex cannot be friends beyond childhood? Give him the gift and don't worry about her getting mad about it, I am sure she won't!
I say you do not have to buy your friend's wife a gift...after all...HE is your friend, if you consider her a friend it seems it's more of a "friend by association" type of thing. If you do decide to buy her a gift I think I would stick to some sort of book. How about a Baby Name Book?
Also...I do not see anything wrong with giving your friend a gift, even if he is a guy. He has been your friend since you were kids I am sure his wife is aware of that and if he visits you and your husband without her I am also sure she trusts you both in this friendship. Where is there a rule that says adults of the opposite sex cannot be friends beyond childhood? Give him the gift and don't worry about her getting mad about it, I am sure she won't!
what is baby shower?
sandrainte
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A baby shower is a party in which expectant parents receive gifts or money for their expected child. By convention, a baby shower is intended to help parents get things that they need for their baby (such as basic layette items), especially items they may not be able to afford. It is a fairly recent tradition in the United States and in other cultures influenced by American culture or media.
Traditionally, a baby shower is held only for the mother-to-be, and only women attend. However, many people choose to have baby showers for both parents, and some people have a men-only shower. It is not uncommon for a parent to have more than one baby shower, such as one with friends and another with co-workers. A baby shower is generally arranged by a close friend or relative of the parents-to-be. Traditionally, it was considered improper for a family member to host because the event centers on gift-giving.
Baby showers have become more common in the past few decades, as families have become smaller and each child gets more individual attention. Though they are traditionally only held for the first child, they can also be arranged for subsequent children and for children who have been adopted. It is common for the host to provide baby-themed games during the shower. In some regions, shower favors (small gifts for the guests) are common.
Not all Americans hold baby showers. For example, in Jewish tradition, nothing may be bought for the baby before it is born. But many American Jews today do not subscribe to that tradition. Many Italian-Americans also do not hold baby showers. Some people prefer to hold showers after the birth of the baby.
[edit] Baby Shower Activities
While there are no set guidelines for what constitutes a baby shower, there are some traditional activities that are common at baby showers. Often, showers are luncheon or afternoon tea parties. While the most important part of the gathering is just gathering the mother-to-be's friends and family around her to celebrate the coming of a baby, activities, games, food and drinks give guests something to do and serve as ice-breakers for those guests who are unacquainted.
Some classic activities at baby showers include:
Baby shower bingo
Guess the due date
Guess the expectant mother's girth: guests cut pieces of ribbon or yarn to a length they believe matches the mom-to-be's tummy circumference
Guess the baby food flavor: guests have to taste-test several flavors of baby food and try to identify them
Usually, at a baby shower the guest of honor opens the gifts in front of the other guests. This allows everyone to admire the tiny clothing and fun baby gear.
While you can serve any food and beverages you desire, it is traditional to have a baby shower cake.
[edit] Other terms
"Daddy's shower" refers to a men-only shower for the dad-to-be.
"Grandma's shower" refers to a shower at which people bring items for the grandparents to keep at their house, such as a collapsible crib and a changing pad.
A "diaper shower" or a "baby sprinkle" refers to a small-scale baby shower, generally for subsequent children, when the parents don't need as many items.
A "pampers party" is also a mens-only shower, usually held the same night as the women's baby shower. The men usually give the daddy-to-be diapers only because the mommy-to-be is getting other items at the shower.
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A baby shower is a party in which expectant parents receive gifts or money for their expected child. By convention, a baby shower is intended to help parents get things that they need for their baby (such as basic layette items), especially items they may not be able to afford. It is a fairly recent tradition in the United States and in other cultures influenced by American culture or media.
Traditionally, a baby shower is held only for the mother-to-be, and only women attend. However, many people choose to have baby showers for both parents, and some people have a men-only shower. It is not uncommon for a parent to have more than one baby shower, such as one with friends and another with co-workers. A baby shower is generally arranged by a close friend or relative of the parents-to-be. Traditionally, it was considered improper for a family member to host because the event centers on gift-giving.
Baby showers have become more common in the past few decades, as families have become smaller and each child gets more individual attention. Though they are traditionally only held for the first child, they can also be arranged for subsequent children and for children who have been adopted. It is common for the host to provide baby-themed games during the shower. In some regions, shower favors (small gifts for the guests) are common.
Not all Americans hold baby showers. For example, in Jewish tradition, nothing may be bought for the baby before it is born. But many American Jews today do not subscribe to that tradition. Many Italian-Americans also do not hold baby showers. Some people prefer to hold showers after the birth of the baby.
[edit] Baby Shower Activities
While there are no set guidelines for what constitutes a baby shower, there are some traditional activities that are common at baby showers. Often, showers are luncheon or afternoon tea parties. While the most important part of the gathering is just gathering the mother-to-be's friends and family around her to celebrate the coming of a baby, activities, games, food and drinks give guests something to do and serve as ice-breakers for those guests who are unacquainted.
Some classic activities at baby showers include:
Baby shower bingo
Guess the due date
Guess the expectant mother's girth: guests cut pieces of ribbon or yarn to a length they believe matches the mom-to-be's tummy circumference
Guess the baby food flavor: guests have to taste-test several flavors of baby food and try to identify them
Usually, at a baby shower the guest of honor opens the gifts in front of the other guests. This allows everyone to admire the tiny clothing and fun baby gear.
While you can serve any food and beverages you desire, it is traditional to have a baby shower cake.
[edit] Other terms
"Daddy's shower" refers to a men-only shower for the dad-to-be.
"Grandma's shower" refers to a shower at which people bring items for the grandparents to keep at their house, such as a collapsible crib and a changing pad.
A "diaper shower" or a "baby sprinkle" refers to a small-scale baby shower, generally for subsequent children, when the parents don't need as many items.
A "pampers party" is also a mens-only shower, usually held the same night as the women's baby shower. The men usually give the daddy-to-be diapers only because the mommy-to-be is getting other items at the shower.
Retrieved from "http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_shower"
Categories: Wikipedia articles needing factual verification | Ceremonies | Pregnancy
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