Mom-to-be being too picky?

ladydianne

I am throwing a baby shower for a friend who is expecting twins. Is it rude if I include on the invitation the following:

Mommy has been overwhelmed with the generous amount of clothing gifts that she has received and since the boys can share clothes but cannot share other things she has requested that you consider purchasing one of the many non-clothing items on the registry.

I do not want to offend guests, but my friend is right...the boys cannot share high chairs or bouncy seats etc. Is it rude to say this or is there a better way to say it? I just do not want to be offensive.

Answer
Yes it's rude. Just don't include clothes on the gift registry and if she gets too many clothes she can always exchange them for something else or sell them on craigslist/ebay and use the money for something she needs. Telling people what to buy a person takes all the joy out of gifting.

TWIN SISTER as MAID OF HONOR?

fallinginl

I dislike my twin sister a lot at times. I'm getting married, and my mom expects me to have her as my maid of honor... but the thing is I just don't like her like that. Growing up with her was hell. When she was nice to me, I was a huge idiot, and told her everything and trusted her. As soon as we got in a fight, she used all she knew about me and threatened to tell my folks on me. And I was SUCH an idiot to keep doing this to her all the times. I ALWAYS TRUSTED HER, because I thought maybe she would change. When we were kids, I lost my Walkman, and she had a cd player [gift from an aunt] and her walkman that our folks bought us, and so she gave me her walkman. but every time we got in an argument she demanded it back, and threatened to tell my mother that i lost mine. she was always super bossy, and it hurt a lot. I'm not saying I was perfect or a saint or anything. I had my little moments, but I never ever wanted to hurt her the way she did to me. I just had this little hope that she would change :(( And she's so two faced. No one ever beliees the way she acts. Everyone thinks she's so quiet and sweet, and except for my immediate family, no one knows her real behavior. She stole all of my best friends I've had for years and tried to leave me out of their convos and stuff, and got mad if I talked to her friends. I know I seem jealous and to be honest, I was [AM!]. My mother wants her to be my maid of honor. But I was thinking of giving that title to one of my closest friends. But my mom is super mad and she said she won't come to the wedding unless my twin is the maid of honor. My mom never got along with her sister either, and my aunt became her maid of honor too. Apparently it looks bad. I don't know what to do!

Answer
This is your life too and you need to grow a backbone because over the course of your life you will find that people will bully others (you) into getting what they want. Now is the time to start being assertive. This wedding is for you and your intended. Hopefully he is the kind to stand by you which helps. Make the decision to pick someone YOU want and ask your fiance to back you up on it. Being a twin is not some automatic invitation to be the maid of honor. I bet anything you would not be chosen to be hers.
It is all a matter of having confidence in yourself. Do some reading on how to be assertive because it will help give you confidence and don't forget to ask your man to speak up for you if this becomes a problem. It is simple, your twin is not your best friend, someone else is. That is all you have to say.

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