Em
I have 4 friends throwing me a baby shower. They are my closest friends. On the invitation, it shows only one hostess, but the other 3 have apparently put in a lot of time and effort. I'm not exactly sure about gifts to give them and when? I'm also giving my step mom a gift because she was in charge of the cake (which means she was a part of the shower-giving.) I have some gift bags that all have a Bath & Body Works hand soap, mini candle, mini antibacterial hand sanitizer, and some cry babies gum. I'm going to another store today to pick up some bath salts to add to the bag. Do you think this is sufficient? I'd like to go a bit more elaborate but I'm about to go on maternity leave and money is tight anyways. Do you think this is enough to show my appreciation? I know they spent a lot of money and time. I just don't want to disappoint....Also- do i bring the gift bags TO the shower and give to them after, or do I wait and give them at a later date? Thanks!
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Write out a meaningful and heartfelt card for each of them. Tell them specific things about the shower that made it special to you. Include those with the gift bags.
Etiquette is that "Thank you" gifts to hosts or hostesses should be fairly small. If the gifts are too large it won't feel like appreciation, but more like a "pay you back".
If you bring them to the shower, which is acceptable, wait until all the guests have left to give them. If you wait until after make sure they are delivered (face-to-face is a nice touch) no more than 2 weeks after the shower.
Write out a meaningful and heartfelt card for each of them. Tell them specific things about the shower that made it special to you. Include those with the gift bags.
Etiquette is that "Thank you" gifts to hosts or hostesses should be fairly small. If the gifts are too large it won't feel like appreciation, but more like a "pay you back".
If you bring them to the shower, which is acceptable, wait until all the guests have left to give them. If you wait until after make sure they are delivered (face-to-face is a nice touch) no more than 2 weeks after the shower.
Exchanging baby shower gift etiquette!?
Elisheva
The in-laws bought us a car seat for the baby shower, and it was not the one on our registry. MIL said it was because the one we picked out was too big (it was not, it is a convertible car seat 5lbs-40lbs). Th one they bought was a carrier car seat that fixes to stroller that we don't have and only goes to 30lbs. It's not what we want and are planning to exchange it for the one we do want. They are the same price. When I told her that the car seat we picked out is convertible..etc.. she didn't offer a gift receipt or to exchange it.
So do you think I should tell them we plan to exchange it, or just wait until they see it, and say "yeah we ended up getting the one we wanted"? It is getting exchanged, just not sure how to explain it, or if that is even necessary at all. They can be touchy, so I don't know how to handle it. We're all adults, and I just want them to not feel we are not grateful.
Thank you! :)
Answer
Once you receive a gift, it is yours to do with as you will. If the item isn't suitable for whatever reason, you can exchange it, return it, regift it, donate it to charity or throw it out. But you thank the giver politely for the original gift.
(IF MIL notices at a later date that you're using a different carseat, you can just say that you found her choice didn't work well for you, so you exchanged it. But no need to bring it up until/unless she does.)
Once you receive a gift, it is yours to do with as you will. If the item isn't suitable for whatever reason, you can exchange it, return it, regift it, donate it to charity or throw it out. But you thank the giver politely for the original gift.
(IF MIL notices at a later date that you're using a different carseat, you can just say that you found her choice didn't work well for you, so you exchanged it. But no need to bring it up until/unless she does.)
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