Q. I dislike my twin sister a lot at times. I'm getting married, and my mom expects me to have her as my maid of honor... but the thing is I just don't like her like that. Growing up with her was hell. When she was nice to me, I was a huge idiot, and told her everything and trusted her. As soon as we got in a fight, she used all she knew about me and threatened to tell my folks on me. And I was SUCH an idiot to keep doing this to her all the times. I ALWAYS TRUSTED HER, because I thought maybe she would change. When we were kids, I lost my Walkman, and she had a cd player [gift from an aunt] and her walkman that our folks bought us, and so she gave me her walkman. but every time we got in an argument she demanded it back, and threatened to tell my mother that i lost mine. she was always super bossy, and it hurt a lot. I'm not saying I was perfect or a saint or anything. I had my little moments, but I never ever wanted to hurt her the way she did to me. I just had this little hope that she would change :(( And she's so two faced. No one ever beliees the way she acts. Everyone thinks she's so quiet and sweet, and except for my immediate family, no one knows her real behavior. She stole all of my best friends I've had for years and tried to leave me out of their convos and stuff, and got mad if I talked to her friends. I know I seem jealous and to be honest, I was [AM!]. My mother wants her to be my maid of honor. But I was thinking of giving that title to one of my closest friends. But my mom is super mad and she said she won't come to the wedding unless my twin is the maid of honor. My mom never got along with her sister either, and my aunt became her maid of honor too. Apparently it looks bad. I don't know what to do!
Answer
This is your life too and you need to grow a backbone because over the course of your life you will find that people will bully others (you) into getting what they want. Now is the time to start being assertive. This wedding is for you and your intended. Hopefully he is the kind to stand by you which helps. Make the decision to pick someone YOU want and ask your fiance to back you up on it. Being a twin is not some automatic invitation to be the maid of honor. I bet anything you would not be chosen to be hers.
It is all a matter of having confidence in yourself. Do some reading on how to be assertive because it will help give you confidence and don't forget to ask your man to speak up for you if this becomes a problem. It is simple, your twin is not your best friend, someone else is. That is all you have to say.
This is your life too and you need to grow a backbone because over the course of your life you will find that people will bully others (you) into getting what they want. Now is the time to start being assertive. This wedding is for you and your intended. Hopefully he is the kind to stand by you which helps. Make the decision to pick someone YOU want and ask your fiance to back you up on it. Being a twin is not some automatic invitation to be the maid of honor. I bet anything you would not be chosen to be hers.
It is all a matter of having confidence in yourself. Do some reading on how to be assertive because it will help give you confidence and don't forget to ask your man to speak up for you if this becomes a problem. It is simple, your twin is not your best friend, someone else is. That is all you have to say.
Twins baby shower? When?
daisylynn
When Should you have a baby shower if the mommy-2-be is expecting twins? Her actual due date is Sept 30, The month of July is out b/c all weekends are already booked. So should it be the last weekend in June which is really early or the first weekend in August which is a little risky b/c babies could be here?
Answer
Ask the mommy-2-be what she thinks would be more comfortable for her. I threw my sister-in-law a baby shower & she chose the date, which was about a 5 weeks before her due date. But she was not having any complications. (By the way, her theme were bears...and they had told her one was a girl for sure...and guess what? They were both boys. Though they are faternal twins, they almost looked identical for the first 3 years.)
So the first weekend of AUGUST would be just fine, if she's ok with it. Usually, twins don't come too early. Her's were only about a week early. But like I said, it all depends on the mommy-2-be!!
Hope you have lots of fun! ;o)
FYI:
Twin Forum
http://forums.twinstore.com/6/ubb.x?a=frm&s=36960974&f=30660829
Twins Magazine (makes a great gift)
http://www.twinsmagazine.com/
TWINS FUN GAME IDEA:
Juggling Twins!
This game is fun to play at a shower for those moms having multiples! It's like hot potato.
WHAT YOU NEED: 2 baby dolls, music that can be turned off & on, and a person who controls the music.
HOW TO PLAY: Have guests stand in a big circle. Pass two baby dolls (or however many babies mom's expecting) around as the music plays. Whenever the music stops, the person holding a doll is out of the game.
Best to have the dolls apart from each other so the game moves quickly and people are constantly having to pass a baby. When it comes to the last two people, use just one doll or have 2 winners!
This game gets pretty crazy as people get eliminated! So fun!
http://www.baby-shower.com/d-games/index.html
Ask the mommy-2-be what she thinks would be more comfortable for her. I threw my sister-in-law a baby shower & she chose the date, which was about a 5 weeks before her due date. But she was not having any complications. (By the way, her theme were bears...and they had told her one was a girl for sure...and guess what? They were both boys. Though they are faternal twins, they almost looked identical for the first 3 years.)
So the first weekend of AUGUST would be just fine, if she's ok with it. Usually, twins don't come too early. Her's were only about a week early. But like I said, it all depends on the mommy-2-be!!
Hope you have lots of fun! ;o)
FYI:
Twin Forum
http://forums.twinstore.com/6/ubb.x?a=frm&s=36960974&f=30660829
Twins Magazine (makes a great gift)
http://www.twinsmagazine.com/
TWINS FUN GAME IDEA:
Juggling Twins!
This game is fun to play at a shower for those moms having multiples! It's like hot potato.
WHAT YOU NEED: 2 baby dolls, music that can be turned off & on, and a person who controls the music.
HOW TO PLAY: Have guests stand in a big circle. Pass two baby dolls (or however many babies mom's expecting) around as the music plays. Whenever the music stops, the person holding a doll is out of the game.
Best to have the dolls apart from each other so the game moves quickly and people are constantly having to pass a baby. When it comes to the last two people, use just one doll or have 2 winners!
This game gets pretty crazy as people get eliminated! So fun!
http://www.baby-shower.com/d-games/index.html
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